A photo a day in May – Something you made

Friday 18 May

I made this!  Not the pitcher itself, but I painted the bees and ladybirds on it using my little chap’s thumb-prints as a starting point and then painting the detail on by hand with a fine brush.  We had a lovely afternoon at the pottery studio, doing hand and foot prints too, and they glazed and fired everything for us.  Very pleased with the result.  I’m going to put some cut flowers in it.

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A photo a day in May – snack

Thursday 17 May – snack

This wasn’t as big as it looks but it was more of a pudding than a snack.  Delicious lemon pudding, simplicity to make and amazing to eat.  A recipe from Lori Longbotham’s book “Luscious Lemon Desserts” which was one of my souvenirs from my visit to San Francisco.  You can taste the sunshine in this one!

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Wednesday 16 May – what you’re reading

I seem to have a few books on the go at the moment, but these are the main three:

The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin;
Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford; and
The Imperfectionists by Tom Rachman

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Tuesday 15 May – love

Me and my little man – what else can I say?

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Monday 14 May – Grass

Here is a worm’s eye view of our lawn after all the recent rain and before mowing. Nearly had to take a scythe to it first!

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Alice Brown’s Lessons in the Curious Art of Dating, by Eleanor Prescott

I read all sorts of books in different genres, including what some people refer to as “chick-lit”.  I read these books because they have the “feel-good factor” and there are times when I want a good read with a guaranteed happy ending; they are something I pick up when I’m in need of a pick-up myself.  Some of the stories are the equivalent of a McDonald’s for the eyes; they just slip down without too much effort on the part of the reader and often that is exactly what I need.  But some are rather better than that.

Alice Brown’s Lessons in the Curious Art of Dating is one such book.  It is an easy read but it has a better than the average “feel-good” storyline.  The plot is more convoluted and the story revolves around several central characters, each of whom has come to a turning point in their life.  The Alice Brown of the title works at a dating agency run by Audrey, a rather severe and disapproving character.  Audrey and her husband John attend the annual Dating Practitioners’ Society ball, where, under the influence of alcohol, some of the other characters make apparent their unsavoury personality traits.  Alice is on the receiving end of some of the unpleasantness, and Audrey’s husband John stands up for her and comforts her.   But it becomes apparent that John is not what he seems to be.   There follows several turns in the plot and a lot of potential for misunderstanding which makes for a very enjoyable read.  There are also several sub plots running alongside, which enrich the central plot and add depth to the main characters.

The depth of the characters is what stands out the most for me about this book.  They are very well observed and all come to life on the page.  Most of them are extremely funny and I especially liked Audrey, the owner of the dating agency and Emily, the daughter of one of the main characters.  They were both very well written and I could just imagine their conversations, especially Emily when she confronts Audrey who is all but stalking her father: (“you…have got to be Audrey”).  These two in particular provide several “laugh out loud” moments, another essential component when I’m reading to be cheered up.

Of course they all live happily ever after, even the less likeable characters, but this book certainly lifted the spirits and gave me a really good laugh, especially when Audrey and then Emily took centre stage.  I hope Eleanor Prescott writes another book; I would certainly read it.

Coming soon: an interview with Eleanor Prescott.

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An interview with author Leigh Russell

Leigh Russell writes the bestselling Geraldine Steel mystery series: Cut Short, Road Closed, Dead End, Death Bed. She has received many accolades, including a place on the Top 50 Bestseller list Amazon UK, Best Crime Book on Crime Time poll, Great Crime Sleuth on Lovereading and Top Read on Eurocrime. Her Geraldine Steel character is Kindle’s No. 1 Bestselling female sleuth. Leigh’s books have been shortlisted for the CWA New Blood Dagger Award.

Leigh kindly agreed to answer a few questions about her books, the writing life and how she became a writer.

Do you write your books with the ending in mind, planned out, or do you just write and see where it takes you?
I work out my plots in advance. Writing a book is like going on a journey. You know where you are starting from, and where you are heading, but the route from one to the other has to be planned. I need to know when to point my reader in the right direction, and when to take them on a little detour by throwing in a red herring. It would be difficult to do that without knowing where the story was leading. That said, my narratives often veer off track while I’m writing. Sometimes I follow a stray idea, sometimes I have to rein my characters in and stick to the main plotline I have planned out.

What made you decide to write crime stories? Is this your favourite genre to read?
I never made a conscious decision to write crime stories. An idea struck me one day as I was walking in my local park, and when I reached home I began to write out the story that was in my head. On the strength of that manuscript I was offered a three book deal. The idea went on to be published as Cut Short, which was shortlisted for a CWA Dagger Award for Best First Novel, and the first in an internationally bestselling crime series.

How difficult (or otherwise) did you find it to get inside the minds of your killers and write from their perspectives?
Barry Forshaw writing in Crime Time says that my books take the reader “into the darkest recesses of the human psyche”. It’s a fantastic compliment, but I’ve no idea how I get there. All my writing is driven by curiosity over what drives one person to kill another human being. Each of my books explores a different killer’s motivation. The murderers are so much more interesting to write than the ‘good guys’. The motivation for each of my killers, in Cut Short, Road Closed, Dead End and Death Bed, is what drives the narratives.

The identity of the killer in Cut Short was revealed very early on. Why did you do decide to do that?
Cut Short follows parallel stories of the killer and the detective. While the police are hunting for the serial killer, the reader knows they are looking in the wrong place. This heightens the tension as the reader wonders how many more people are going to be killed before the police stop the killer.

I read Cut Short and then Dead End and I felt there was quite a difference in the level of violence between the first and third books, almost like a killer becoming more and more used to the killing and upping the ante every time. Was this deliberate, or, like the killer, was it easier for you to write more grisly detail as time went on?
The violence in Cut Short isn’t really described, but all of my books follow murder investigations so they all touch on violent themes. I never write detailed descriptions of violence. That doesn’t inspire me. I’m far more interested in what is happening inside the killer’s mind than in his or her victim’s physical insides. There are some crime authors who are medically trained and can write quite clinically about blood and guts, but I’m rather squeamish! That said, my victims can be killed in dreadful ways as this raises the stakes for the reader. The nastier the murders are, the more tense the book becomes until the killer is caught.

There are lots of women in prominent positions in the Geraldine Steel series. Was it difficult to create so many female characters and set them in what could still be seen as the man’s environment of the Police force?
I deliberately gave Geraldine a female boss at the start of the series, since women have broken through the glass ceiling to reach senior positions these days. Although the gender politics is very much in the background of the murder investigation, it is still important. Geraldine has a female detective chief inspector as her boss, and continues to work with her sergeant, Ian Peterson, who has become a popular character with readers in his own right. This is established in Cut Short, and continues in Road Closed and Dead End. In the new title in the series, Death Bed, a new female character is introduced – but I’m not giving away the gender of the killer. You’ll have to read the book if you want to know that!

The Geraldine Steel series, so far, is based in Kent – have you any ties to the county apart from your time at the University of Kent?
No. In fact, in the following book Geraldine relocates to London. But as the series continues, she maintains her ties with the characters in Kent: her sister, her old school friend, and her previous sergeant.

Have you always wanted to become a writer? How did becoming published come about for you?
Although I’ve always read a lot I had no aspirations to write myself. Having had an idea for a story, and written it down, I sent it to a publisher who has a well-known crime imprint. To my surprise they contacted me after two weeks and offered me a contract for a series.

What are you reading at the moment?
Since I started writing, I sadly don’t have much time for reading. In addition to writing, like all successful authors I have to spend a lot of time promoting my books. Fortunately I enjoy meeting readers and talking about writing, whether I’m signing in bookshops, giving talks in libraries, colleges or prisons, or appearing at literary festivals. I also run creative writing workshops for The Society of Authors and at Get Writing which is hosted by the University of Hertfordshire, so my life is pretty busy! Of course I read a lot of crime fiction – Val McDermid, Mark Billingham, Jeffery Deaver, Tess Gerritsen, Simon Beckett, Lee Child… to name just a few. There are so many talented writers in the genre.

Your fourth Geraldine Steel book, Death Bed, is about to be published. Can you tell us something about the story? DI Steel has moved to London which I imagine will completely change the pace and drama of the story.
In many ways the pace and drama remain the same with Geraldine pursuing a murder investigation while the death toll rises as she hunts for the killer. Her move to London is a huge change for her personally as she adapts to a different team, and explores a new area. It gives her a shake up, while still keeping to a familiar formula. I hope readers are going to like her new sergeant. But Geraldine doesn’t leave her old life behind her altogether. She returns to Kent to visit her sister, and keeps in touch with ex-colleagues.

Thank you very much for interviewing me here, with such interesting questions!

Leigh Russell’s books are available in paperback and as e-books here.

www.leighrussell.co.uk

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A Surreal Week

I’m once again linking up with Kate On Thin Ice and her blog hop to get mums to take a little time just for themselves in their busy lives.  I’m thinking this week about Kate’s Big Question: what one small thing can you do to make a big difference.

I’ve lately been reading Gretchen Rubin’s blog about how to bring a little happiness into our lives, which I felt fitted quite well with Kate’s idea.  There is usually something in the emails which makes me look at things differently and I’ve been a subscriber for a while but this article in particular really made me want to read the whole book.  I found this blog via Ally or Zazzy, I can’t remember which, but I’ve found many of the quotes and different viewpoints to be quite inspirational.  This week the following pinged into my inbox:  5 Things to Stave off the Blues.   Or, to put it another way, 5 things to avoid so that the blues don’t get worse.  Have a look at the article for an explanation.

The argument was that some of the things we do when we’re feeling down may actually make us feel worse, for example:

  • ·         Comforting yourself with a “treat;”
  • ·         Letting yourself off the hook;
  • .         Turning off your phone;
  • ·         Aggressively expressing your negative emotions;
  • ·         Staying in your pajamas all day.

The theory is that resisting the temptation, whether to eat something we don’t need or to slob around the house, can be a huge boost.  For example, comfort eating just makes me feel worse in the long run.  Years ago I gave up eating chocolate completely, which lasted for a couple of years.  I’ve no idea why I went back to eating it.  But I’m avoiding chocolate again because I find it can bring my mood crashing down.  And now I’m starting to get a little mental energy and clarity of thinking, I don’t want to do anything to jeopardise it.  I also think that I’ve let myself off the hook way too often in my life and have therefore achieved much less than I was capable.  Also, when I slob around all day, I do feel more lethargic and less motivated.  I like having things to do and objectives to aim for, so I’m giving these a try.  They almost feel like New Year’s resolutions.  I remember a lot of people saying around New Year that anytime you feel like it is a good time to make a change.  Not giving in is half the battle, I’m finding.  There, already I’m not letting myself off the hook!

I’ve also rejoined the gym after a break of a couple of months and I’m enjoying feeling a little fitter for the effort.  Big laugh of the week came courtesy of Zazzy, though, with whom I had an extremely surreal conversation.  All started out in a very ordinary way but quickly took a turn for the bizarre.  I’ve learned way more this week than I needed to know!  I will never look at cotton buds again in the same way.  Read more here.

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Working Nine to Five (what a way to make a living)

The lovely Older Mum tagged me on this meme and, as I’m trying to keep up to date with these things now, I’m going to jump straight in.

Here are the rules:

  1. Post the rules
  2. Answer the questions in as much or as little detail as suits you
  3. Leave a comment on MotherWifeMe so we can keep track of the meme
  4. Tag three people and link them on your blog
  5. Let them know you tagged them
  6. Tweet loudly about taking part using #amothersworkmeme

Did you work before becoming a mum?

I was 39 before the little man was born, so I’d had a variety of jobs, from shop work on Saturdays when I was at school to junior clerical work and payroll, through to working in the NHS and then being Directors’ PA and more latterly property management.

What is your current situation?

Full time mum to the little man, although I’m starting to develop ideas and plans for what I’m going to do when he starts school and doesn’t need me for as many hours in the day as he does at the moment.  Lots of studying and writing; and reading – lots of reading.

Freestyle – a chance to get across your own point of view on the subject.

I never really found anything that I was really good at and enjoyed until I became a mother.  I was always searching for the perfect job and if I could go back 20 years, still knowing what I know now, I would do things differently.  But that wasn’t really an option then so I did the jobs that I could do, that were reasonably enjoyable and that paid the rent and latterly the mortgage.  If I’d had the ambition and direction (and self belief) then which was lacking, and if I’d pursued the sort of career and I would pursue if I could go back, I might have gone back to work after the little man was born.  But as things are, I think I have finally found the thing that I love to do, nurture the little one.  Very rewarding, but the pay is shocking!

I’m going to tag Mummy Plum, because I’d love to know what she used to do before the birth of Little Pip.

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Motherhood

I’ve been tagged by Kate On Thin Ice on this Motherhood meme, eight questions on all things motherhood.  So here goes:

 Describe Motherhood in three words

My biggest blessing.

Does your experience differ from your mother’s? How?

Completely.  My mum couldn’t cope with children and didn’t really want to be around them.  No idea why she had them in the first place!  I, on the other hand, love my child deeply and completely, I enjoy his company and get a huge thrill from watching him grow and develop.  My mum thought children were a mill-stone and a life sentence.  I know that he is only lent to me, and for such a short time.

What’s the hardest thing about being a mum?

Watching him grow so quickly!  Of course it’s great that he’s growing and thriving, but it’s happening way too quickly for me.  Also, wanting to facilitate the absolute best for him (whatever form that might take) and worrying that I won’t be able to achieve it.  Worrying about letting him down, I suppose.  Also, worrying about keeping him safe.

What’s the best thing?

Way too many things to name!  Hearing his giggle when I tickle him, having a hug, watching him interact confidently with the world, getting snuggley at bedtime, watching him master a new skill – the whole thing, I love the whole thing.

How has it changed you?

It’s made me much more assertive and confident.  I’ve found something that I’m good at and I enjoy.  There are also qualities that have always been there but have been brought out by having my little chap – for example teaching him things, helping him grow, singing, playing silly games, deep love.  Those things were always there but have a focus now.

What do you hope for your children?

No poverty of aspiration in this house!  A decent education is absolutely paramount.  I want him to have options, and then whatever his choices are, that they make him happy.  All I can do is lay the foundations.  They must be solid foundations and then he can build on them as he chooses.  Also, that his self esteem is such that, when the world starts knocking holes in him, he is resilient enough to withstand the tough times.

What do you fear for them?

That he doesn’t reach his potential, whatever that may be.

What makes it all worthwhile?

Sharing the world with him and being able to show him as much of it as possible.  Making the most of as many days as possible.  Hearing him calling me when he wakes in the morning.

I’m tagging:

http://www.mummyplum.blogspot.co.uk/;

http://storminakcup.wordpress.com/;

http://oldersinglemum.blogspot.co.uk/; and

http://older-mum.blogspot.co.uk/.

Anyone else want to have a go at this?  Warm and fuzzy feelings guaranteed!

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